Come on, Pastor. Is Your Job Really Tougher Than Mine?


It can be hard to be a pastor. But Jayson Bradley reminds us that job frustrations and challenges are not unique to the ministry. By constantly harping on the difficulties of pastoring, one projects personal frustration onto congregants and implies that their struggles and challenges aren’t as significant.

Google “being a pastor is hard” and you’ll get over 26 million hits on articles that discuss the secret pains of pastors — some of them written by me. The idea that pastors have it harder than other professions has seeped into the fabric of the church until no one questions it anymore. But do we really?

What are we expecting?

Part of the problem lies in our expectations of the pastorate. Many of us were raised in churches where we held pastors in the highest esteem. We felt drawn to ministry because of the impact these people had on us. But when we began to pastor our own churches, we discovered that not everyone felt the same respect for clergy that we had felt.

Does the New Testament suggest that ministry is an easy job? Of course not. When we listen to Paul talk about his ministry, it’s pretty sobering.

I don’t want to downplay the heartbreaks and difficulties that pastors experience. God knows, I’ve had my share of pastoral heartbreak. But I’m concerned that we magnify pastoral difficulties in a way that makes it hard to recognize the everyday struggles of people in our churches. Every time we talk about how hard it is to be a pastor, we’re not necessarily convincing anyone but ourselves. All that the people in our care hear is, “Your struggles aren’t very significant compared to mine.”

Common complaints about pastoring

If it’s been a while since you held a high-pressure secular job, it’s hard to remember that all jobs have elements that suck. They just lack the platform to tell everyone about it. Let’s look at a few problem areas in pastoral ministry.

1. Pastors are on call 24/7

Feeling like you’re constantly on call can create a sense of unease. But this feeling isn’t peculiar to pastors. I had a close friend who managed a restaurant. This guy had to drop everything and take care of emergencies a lot more often than I ever did as a pastor.

Also, if you can’t create some boundaries in your life, that’s kind of on you. You don’t have to return every phone call immediately or drop everything for people all the time. No one’s really thinking, “Hey, I called my pastor at 3 a.m., and he didn’t return my call until the next morning. Jerk.”

2. Pastors are always dealing with squabbles

Dealing with congregational fights and ill feelings took a lot of my pastoral energy. I felt like I was always mediating between various warring factions. But when I’m honest, a lot of that had to do with my immaturity and lack of leadership skills.

This is not a frustration that’s found only in pastoral ministry. Every job has conflict, and many people are in positions without any authority to really deal with conflict. I’d much rather deal with church squabbles than suffer through the politics and squabbling that a high school teacher deals with daily.

3. Pastor’s decisions are challenged

Sometimes as a pastor you have to make tough calls. You may have to tell people “no” or make unpopular decisions. Afterward, disgruntled people will wander around and stir up dissension. It’s incredibly irritating. Guess what? It is the same for anyone in a position of leadership. Every CEO makes tough calls that people resent, and every manager has people trash talking them at the water cooler.

If this is a chronic problem for you, it might be time to brush up on your skills as a leader. Take some leadership classes and improve the way you reach and implement decisions. It’s possible that these problems could be mitigated by strengthening your weaknesses.

4. Pastoral work cuts into family time

Finding a work/life balance is difficult. When people place a lot of expectations on you and you feel guilty if they’re not met, it can be nearly impossible to create a balance. This is a problem that most professionals struggle with. Try telling an entrepreneur it’s time to call it a day or stop the salesman from making that last call in order to meet his quota. Everyone in a professional position is wrestling to find balance — and it isn’t easy.

5. Pastors deal with a lot of scrutiny

When you’re in a high-profile position of leadership and making decisions that affect a lot of people, they are going to pick apart your decisions. Sometimes it’s folks who have absolutely no business scrutinizing you who will jump on the bandwagon to point out how they would have done things differently. There isn’t an executive alive who doesn’t feel that they’re under a microscope, and the higher the profile the more scrutiny they feel. It just comes with the territory. The more conspicuous you are, the more people will analyze you. The only way to avoid that kind of examination is to choose a supporting role instead of a prominent position.

6. Pastors carry a negative stigma

One of the biggest complaints that pastors make is that people just don’t respect pastors. There’s some truth to that. I don’t know how many wonderful conversations have come to an awkward halt when someone asked what I did for a living. But pastoring doesn’t carry the kind of social stigma that being a politician or police officer does. I wouldn’t want to walk a mile in the loafers of someone in either of those vocations.

The difference is that the New Testament promises that people aren’t going to admire us for following Jesus. People don’t respect ministers, and they’re not necessarily supposed to. But we get to the joy of serving them anyway — and winning them over!

Quit focusing on the difficulties

I know how hard being a pastor can be. I’m sure there have been plenty of moments when you’ve wanted to throw in the towel. But that feeling is not unique to us. Most people in your church have work frustrations.

We need to remember that by constantly harping on the difficulties of pastoring, we’re projecting our frustrations onto the people we’re serving. I can’t imagine the negative impact of constantly telling children how difficult they are to parent — however true it may be. It’s no better to do that to our congregations.

We get to invite people into a closer, more-obedient relationship with Jesus. We encourage them to discover the adventure of answering the call. Honestly, why would they answer that invitation if we’re always telling them how miserable it’s made us?

This article originally appeared on the Ministry Advice blog. Used by permission.

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Jayson Bradley

Jayson Bradley writes on the church and social engagement. His work has been featured or linked to by Relevant, Christianity Today, Leadership Journal, and Sojourners.

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